You’ve just gone through a divorce and have now entered the world of single-ness and co-parenting. It’s new territory, and can be hard to navigate. Here’s some tips from experienced co-parenters.
Here’s some advice from co-parenters that have been there before:
- “Remember this: Genetically, your kids are 50% your ex. Every negative thing you say about him or her, you’re saying about the kids, too.”
- “Get a therapist for the kids during the divorce, not after. We did so and my kids really benefitted from having someone removed from the situation to talk to about their feelings. She encouraged them to open up and helped us sidestep a lot of serious issues.”
- “Understand that some situations don’t lend themselves to co-parenting. Consider alternatives like parallel parenting. Just because you’re divorced doesn’t mean that your spouse has changed.”
- “Be empathetic about the grief they are experiencing. Encourage them to talk and don’t judge their feelings.”
- “Try your hardest to co-parent. Be there for your ex so you two can support your kids as a team. It’s no longer about the adults so put any animosity aside and do what is in the best interest of your children.”
- “If you’re allowing the kids to choose who they live with, don’t make them feel guilty about their choice.”
The most important thing you can do is remember to put your child’s needs first. If you keep the focus on them you’ll be able to avoid getting into emotional ruts with your co-parent. Focusing on your child’s needs will ensure that they always get what’s best for them.
Source: The Huffington Post, The 18 Best Things You Can Do For Your Kids After Divorce, February 17, 2015
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