After four years of marriage, Miranda Lambert and Blake Shelton have decided to divorce.
Miranda Lambert and Blake Shelton Divorce
After meeting 10 years ago when they performed together at the CMT concert, Miranda Lambert, 31, and Blake Shelton, 39, quickly became country’s golden couple. They were married in 2011 in Boerne, Texas. But now it looks like that golden couple has come to an end.
“This is not the future we envisioned,” their representatives said via statement. “And it is with heavy hearts that we move forward separately. We are real people, with real lives, with real families, friends and colleagues. Therefore, we kindly ask for privacy and compassion concerning this very personal matter.”
In 2011, Shelton became a judge on The Voice. Lambert won a Grammy for best country album for Platinum earlier this year.
In a recent interview with Marie Claire, Lambert spoke about her relationship with Shelton, saying, “I’m not sunshine and roses. Blake’s the happiest person on the planet. He pulls me out of my darkness… Literally, everything is the best about being married.”
When USA Today asked about the status of her marriage last year, Lambert said, “I’m happy. You’ll have to ask Blake how he feels.”
“Blake’s really broken up over this,” says a source close to Shelton. He filed for divorce in his native Oklahoma July 6. It seems that she is as well – recently breaking down during a July 18 concert in Cheyenne, Wyo. According to a source close to Lambert, “She’s very heartbroken, sad, and confused.”
While it appears the pair’s divorce was granted only two weeks after Shelton filed, the standard length of time it takes in California is 6 months. Timelines will vary by state, so you’ll want to work with an attorney to find out how quickly your divorce is able to take place. Keep in mind, this is a minimum amount of time. Exact time will be based on your specific conditions and your state.
Lambert’s and Shelton’s divorce might have happened quickly, but according to sources close to the couple, the split itself was a long time coming, and that “Both of them have been unhappy for while.”
Despite the couple’s agreement to not go more than two weeks without seeing each other, an insider says “they were rarely together,” and that “Distance was a major factor.”
By now we all know that divorce is common in Hollywood. But that seems to be the case in regular life as well. Or is it?Up until a few recently released studies, we also believed the divorce rate was 50% and that one in two marriages ended in divorce. But the idea that America is a divorce crisis might not be all that accurate. We actually might be in the middle of an actual marriage (as in getting married) crisis. Seems like a ton of people are questioning how blissful “wedded bliss” actually is.
Thoughts on divorce and marriage might be shifting in a way that we weren’t quite aware of. Consider these statistics:
- Though the overall divorce rate is dropping slightly across the nation, it’s actually on the rise among 25- to 29-year-olds. All this is according to the latest U.S. Census.
- One in 10 first marriages fails within five years.
- There are fewer marriages actually happening in the first place. According to Pew Research Center analysis, only 51 percent of adults today are married. That’s compared to 72 percent in 1960. From 2009 to 2010 alone, new marriages fell 5 percent.
- According to government data, more than half of the births by women under 30 now occur out of wedlock. “This is quite amazing,” says Helen Fisher, Ph.D., a biological anthropologist at Rutgers University. “A hundred years ago, if you had a child out of marriage, you’d be a social disgrace. Today women feel comfortable enough economically and culturally to bring up a child without a recognized commitment from a man.”
So maybe we have a marriage problem, not a divorce problem.
But when it comes to divorce, it’s usually not a decision that is made lightly… although, there are some bizarre reasons.
Weird Reasons for Divorce
Just like every marriage has its own strengths and weaknesses, ever divorce has its own reasons. But sometimes those reasons are really od. Take these for example:
“Guantanamo.” A Saudi woman filed for divorce after she found out her husband had nicknamed her “Guantanamo” in his cellphone. According to Al Arabiya news, she discovered the unflattering nickname when she called his cellphone and realized he had left it at home. The man defended himself, saying the nickname was to protect the couple’s privacy. “I don’t want people sitting around me to know that this is my wife calling,” he said.
Parrot Spills the Beans. According to ABC News, a Chinese woman learned of her husband’s infidelity from the couple’s pet parrot when he started saying the words “divorce,” “I love you,” and “be patient.” She took the parrot with her to the divorce lawyer.
Too Many Cats. When people hate cats, they really hate cats. And when they love them, they really love them. Apparently, enough to give up their marriage. According to the Times of Israel, a man divorced his wife after she brought home 550 cats. In court he said he was unable to sleep on the bed and unable to eat meals because the cats were always in the way or stealing his food. The woman refused to give up the cats so the husband decided to give up the marriage.
Chances are your divorce won’t be for reasons like this. The more common reasons people get divorced are these:
Lack of communication. When you are unable to communicate due to a lack of sharing feelings, or not keeping your partner in the loop about what’s happening with you emotionally, you create distance. A successful relationship has open lines of communication where things can be resolved. Additionally, chances are you both feel as if something is being left unsaid, which can multiply over time and become a much larger issue than had you just confronted the issue from the beginning.
Financial Issues. Money, and lack of it, can lead to a lot of problems in relationships. You and your spouse might have different mindsets about money. You need to sit down and decide on what your financial goals are and then create a way to reach them. Working together and understanding what each spouse wants can help ease a low flow of money.
Feeling Held Back. When you first started dating your spouse you may have felt as if the sky was the limit, or maybe you felt like you needed to change yourself a little for him or her. Over the course of a marriage things can change. You might feel now as if your spouse and marriage are holding you back from achieving goals and taking opportunities. If you don’t feel supported by your spouse you can begin to feel as if you are being held back from really accomplishing what you want to during your lifetime. Try to get a clear-headed assessment. Are you really being held back? Or maybe it’s just how you are perceiving the situation. An open conversation might be the best place to start.
Trust. Trust is one of the leading factors in having a successful relationship and marriage. It can be impossible to achieve anything if you do not trust each other. Ask yourself if there’s a reason for the lack of trust. Was there an infidelity or past infidelities? Or are you just reading into things? Try to get a clear head about why there is not trust in your relationship. Maybe working with a relationship therapist can help you both deal with any trust issues.
Expectations. If you expected one thing at the beginning of the relationship and you aren’t getting it now, or your expectations have changed, you might find that you aren’t as happy in your relationship as you could be.
Your spouse doesn’t understand or fulfill your needs and desires. We all have different needs and wants that need to be met by the significant other in our lives. If you have a partner that doesn’t acknowledge your interests and desires then they won’t do what they can to fulfill your needs and wants.
Sudden Life Change. New changes happen at every moment in our lives. This can be the birth of a child, death of a parent, sudden job loss, a new opportunity for a job across the country. You will both need to be adaptable and know how to be supportive of each other. Life is unplanned, but you should be able to plan that your spouse will be there to support you whether its a good change or a difficult one.
Domestic Violence. If you’ve been in a situation, or are currently in a situation, where your partner has been abusive or controlling in any manner, you should consider seeking help. If need be, contact a trusted family, friend, or an attorney about this matter.
Family Law Attorney
When it comes to the actual legal process of a divorce, you’ll want to work with a skilled family law attorney. There are a number of things that need to be considered during a divorce: child support, spousal support, marital property division, and other things. Working with a skilled attorney can help ensure you get a fair case. For advice on divorce, child custody determinations, setting up a co-parenting agreement, dividing marital property, and spousal support you need the expert law firm of Divorce Law LA. Schedule a consultation today.
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